Porn.
Did you know that people can be addicted to porn, lust or sex?
Did you know that every 10 men that are involved with church, 5 of them struggle with pornography?
Did you know that 20% of all women are addicted to pornography?
Did you know that pornography addictions KILL 30% of marriages?
Porn.
Professors Dolf Zillman of Indiana University and Jennings Bryant of the University of Houston found that repeated exposure to pornography results in a decreased satisfaction with one’s sexual partner, with the partner’s sexuality, with the partner’s sexual curiosity, a decrease in the valuation of faithfulness and a major increase in the importance of sex without attachment.
Porn addiction lies. It steals. It sneaks in and destroys things that are good.
It makes women feel unworthy (when they are SO worthy!). It makes men feel ashamed and trapped (when they can be FREE!). It makes years and years of marriage seem like a lie (when it doesnt have to be that way!).
But the issue isnt the person looking at porn (they are still worthy, and loveable and LOVED.) They are still good sisters, brothers,moms,dads,wives, and husbands. The issue isnt the person. Its the addiction. The problem is that this addiction is one that induces shame...and shame makes you want to keep it a secret. And when you keep it a secret....you cant get help. People who look are addicted pornography are not monsters or evil...they just have an addiction. Just like any other addiction...(food,alcohol,drugs) No addiction is worse than any other.
I have been told that getting sober from a pornography addiction is harder than getting sober from a Heroin addiction.
Do you struggle with lust or sex or porn? Do you think you may have an addiction? You can find out more information here
There is hope. You dont have to be a slave to porn...to lust.
You can get help.
This is an awesome quote from the mission statement of XXXchurch
"we believe that everyone a full life is available to everyone, so we stand against the accepted norms about sexual behaviors and pornography knowing that hope, healing, and true satisfaction are within reach for all us."
Porn sucks. But God is awesome and He loves YOU...regardless of what you struggle with...
I am not going to disagree that Porn can become an addiction- as I have seen it. But I have to say that you aren't going to make anyone with a Porn Addiction feel anything but resentment with this post. Telling them what they are doing is disgusting etc. makes people feel ashamed, and most definitely want nothing to do with you or the God you serve.
ReplyDeleteGod calls his people to love and not judge, and this post is pretty judgmental. It does not talk anything about what causes the addiction, and why it’s so hard to break. I do not know what basis on which you are comparing heroine recovery and porn recovery but if there is any truth to that, it is most likely because Porn is perfectly legal, where heroine is punishable by jail time….it can kill you…etc.
Your premise is fine- porn is addicting, or can be. But not everyone who watches porn is addicted. Not in every marriage is the viewing of porn a secret. You cannot lump a person who views porn with child molesters, rapists, cheaters etc.
God loves people, and judges with understanding and compassion. He also urges his children to do the same, and in a world where Christians are seen as a two-faced, judgmental and fake people, this kind of post will only fuel that fire and perception.
I am sure you are perfectly nice and great! And I am not being mean-it’s easy to preach from a black and white pulpit, but your audience is a grey area, and sometimes we need to be reminded of that.
thanks for the reminder girl...I wrote this post to encourage and to bring hope, by speaking the truth about this horrible addiction. I for sure didnt want to condem anyone.
ReplyDeleteI know :)) I emailed you back love!
DeleteFriend! I am so glad you shared this! There is such a HUGE need for this truth to be shared and I am so glad you had the guts to. I can see the Lord is using you in big ways in this blogging world. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI certainly saw nothing judgmental in your post. I am a result of a marriage that ended due to porn addiction. I am also a mother who discovered porn on her 12 year old son's phone not a week ago. I've seen first hand what porn can do to a family, and if this post can be used to open some people's eyes than God bless you for posting it.
ReplyDeleteto be fair to Ashley...my original post did not contain some aspects that I had intended on including. When she commented..I added some things. Only to be sure that no one felt condemned by this post...I want to speak truth..in love without people think I am judging them. So the post available for view now, is revised some from the original post that she commented on. (which could have been viewed as judgemental)
ReplyDeleteWOW WOW WOW. I love this so much - posted it on my Facebook page. Broke my heart. xo
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