Wednesday, August 7, 2013

The F word.

Get your mind out of the gutter.
I'm not gonna cuss you out.
The F word Imma talk about is FUN! it relates to your marriage.
You HAVE to be able to have fun with your spouse. You have to be able to laugh together. You HAVE TO GO ON DATES together. Dates where you don't talk about kids, or bills or work or anything else that could be a "hot button" for you. Do something together that makes you both feel loved and special. Or something that takes the weight off of your shoulders, if even for just an hour or two.
The mister and I have date night once a week. At first we thought "we cant afford that!" but then as you think about how much it would cost for a divorce.....a date every week is do-able. Ok I'm kidding about the divorce... but really ya'll you can think of some fabulous things that wont cost alot that will put the F word back into your marriage.
On our dates we have rules...we dont talk about the kids, or money, or anything else stressful. We talk about our dreams. I dont know how many businesses we've opened or houses we've built during those date night conversations. I've learned some of the most amazing things about my husband on our date nights.  
Now the thing that some people don't understand is that a date doesn't have to mean dinner and movie. There are SO many other things you can do (besides the obvi...making out, hand holding, etc.) HA!
Here are some ideas:
Scavenger Hunt at a store (FREE)- make a list together of 20 things that you need to find at the mall, walmart, outdoors...anywhere then go together and find them. Take pictures of each item. Its fun if you do it with another couple. Then its a race to see who can find all their items first!
Chopped Challenge (some cost involved) - ask your friends on facebook, twitter or your blog to give you 4-5 items that each of you have to create a dish from. Then have your kids or friends judge who made the best dish!
Extreme Home Makeover (ok maybe not so extreme :) ) (some cost involved) Pick one little project in your house and do it together. Paint a a shelf...landscape the yard. Do something your communication and team work!
The three hour date (some cost) Pack some food, water, a blanket....and then get in your car and drive for 1 hour. It doesn't matter what direction. Just drive for one hour. After an hour...stop. If you are somewhere in a town, find a cute restaurant or stores to check out. If you aren't anywhere near a town or city, find a place to pull off the road and find a place to have a picnic. Or sit on the hood of your car and talk (or makeout!) After an back home. Its like a little adventure..that the two of you are on together. No set plan. Just three hours. The mister and I LOVE going on drives together...we have some of the BEST conversations in the car!
Sometimes its hard to get out of the house if you have here's my suggestion..find a group of friends that will trade babysitting nights with you. You watch their kids one night, so they can go out, then they watch yours another night so you can go out. FREE BABYSITTING!
Ok so you get the idea.
Just make time for each other. Have fun.
 Its worth it. 
You have to invest in your marriage and the best way to do that it to spend time together. Its like a bank account. If you never put money in, but you keep get overdrawn...then its big trouble for you!  

Monday, August 5, 2013

Life Choices.

Usually I stay away from asking ya'll for things....because no one wants to be "hit up" for money every time that they sit down to read blogs! Its our happy place right!
Well I am reaching out to the blogging community to see if I can have you help me raise money for my organization!
 I am the Development Director for Life Choices Clinic! I cannot even BEGIN to tell you how much this place has impacted my life.
At Life Choices Clinic we are all about saving babies, helping moms and breaking destructive cycles.
Every SINGLE day in our little brick building....God moves. Peoples hearts are changed, lives are saved, hope is restored and destructive cycles are broken.
Life Choices Clinic is a place where women can go and be heard, be listened to...its a place where they have a chance to tell someone what their hopes and dreams are.
We offer free pregnancy tests, free ultrasounds, and material assistance.
We teach parenting and life skills classes and give women and families a chance to learn how to be good parents, how to discipline with love and logic instead of more destructive behaviors.
We offer post abortion counseling, for women who have made the choice to have an abortion and who need someone to talk to.
We help women and families find hope.
 I have learned while working here that every single life is beautiful and every single person has their own story.
God has created these beautiful masterpieces called his children...and at Life Choices Clinic we get to see his artwork...his graceful brushstrokes first hand.

I am asking you to support me in the Walk for Life because Life Choices needs your help! We are completely funded by our community, churches and individuals who have a heart for life and desire to see the message of hope, truth and life be spoken out clearly.Your donation to my Walk for Life team can help us impact EVEN more people! We receive no government funding at all. Everything we do is completely funded by people like you who love and support life.

Its takes 2,000 to save a baby, and every 1,000 impacts 6 lives.

Please consider helping us reach our goal of $20,000!

If you want to help you can go here to give and read more about what we do!

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Perfect Life.

 Happy Monday Ya'll!!
I am blessed. Can I just say that? I am SO blessed. I don't have the perfect marriage (in fact its FAR from that). I don't have the perfect life....I am not perfect. I am a hot mess.
But I am SO thankful for the life that God has given me. I have SO many things in my life that I don't deserve.
I was reminded of how blessed I am when the mister walked in the house with these babies on friday! He handed them to me with a card, and said  "I love are beautiful!" sweet! I asked him why he got me flowers and he said "because they were on sale!" HA!
Saturday night I got all prettied up and we went on a triple date with some was fun to get all dolled up for a date night...we go on dates every week...but usually we just go straight from work, so I don't get to get all fancy! And if you know know I love me some fanciness!
(this is my war paint ;) )
I swear the mister HATES to take pictures with me. HATES it. I am all about some long arm shots and he just cringes every time I bust out my phone and say "smile!"
Last night we had a lazy night and since it was the first game of pre season football I was banished from the living room. I went upstairs to do a Little work and the mister came up a few hours later holding these.....
he said "lets get our hostess on!!!!!!" HA! He was SO excited that I had bought him some twinkies for his lunch.
Its the little things, I guess!
How was your weekend?