Get your mind out of the gutter.
I'm not gonna cuss you out.
The F word Imma talk about is FUN!
Fun...as it relates to your marriage.
You HAVE to be able to have fun with your spouse. You have to be able to laugh together. You HAVE TO GO ON DATES together. Dates where you don't talk about kids, or bills or work or anything else that could be a "hot button" for you. Do something together that makes you both feel loved and special. Or something that takes the weight off of your shoulders, if even for just an hour or two.
The mister and I have date night once a week. At first we thought "we cant afford that!" but then as you think about how much it would cost for a divorce.....a date every week is do-able. Ok I'm kidding about the divorce... but really ya'll you can think of some fabulous things that wont cost alot that will put the F word back into your marriage.
On our dates we have rules...we dont talk about the kids, or money, or anything else stressful. We talk about our dreams. I dont know how many businesses we've opened or houses we've built during those date night conversations. I've learned some of the most amazing things about my husband on our date nights.
Now the thing that some people don't understand is that a date doesn't have to mean dinner and movie. There are SO many other things you can do (besides the obvi...making out, hand holding, etc.) HA!
Here are some ideas:
Scavenger Hunt at a store (FREE)- make a list together of 20 things that you need to find at the mall, walmart, outdoors...anywhere then go together and find them. Take pictures of each item. Its fun if you do it with another couple. Then its a race to see who can find all their items first!
Chopped Challenge (some cost involved) - ask your friends on facebook, twitter or your blog to give you 4-5 items that each of you have to create a dish from. Then have your kids or friends judge who made the best dish!
Extreme Home Makeover (ok maybe not so extreme :) ) (some cost involved) Pick one little project in your house and do it together. Paint a wall...build a shelf...landscape the yard. Do something together...build your communication and team work!
The three hour date (some cost) Pack some food, water, a blanket....and then get in your car and drive for 1 hour. It doesn't matter what direction. Just drive for one hour. After an hour...stop. If you are somewhere in a town, find a cute restaurant or stores to check out. If you aren't anywhere near a town or city, find a place to pull off the road and find a place to have a picnic. Or sit on the hood of your car and talk (or makeout!) After an hour...drive back home. Its like a little adventure..that the two of you are on together. No set plan. Just three hours. The mister and I LOVE going on drives together...we have some of the BEST conversations in the car!
Sometimes its hard to get out of the house if you have kids...so here's my suggestion..find a group of friends that will trade babysitting nights with you. You watch their kids one night, so they can go out, then they watch yours another night so you can go out. FREE BABYSITTING!
Ok so you get the idea.
Just make time for each other. Have fun.
Its worth it.
You have to invest in your marriage and the best way to do that it to spend time together. Its like a bank account. If you never put money in, but you keep spending...you get overdrawn...then its big trouble for you!