Monday, September 24, 2012

Its OK..just kill em...

Here are some examples of people that you can kill:
  • Your Ex
  • The driver that just cut you off in traffic
  • The lady that took the LAST pair of size 81/2 shoes on the sale rack
  • The rude casheir at the store
  • The Mother in Law that thinks you are not good enough for her son
  • The ladies that say rude things to you without thinking twice
  • The person that thinks they know EVERYTHING and you know nothing
The only way to deal with these people is to kill them. With KINDNESS.

Ever since I was little my mom and dad would tell me to "kill em' with kindness, Heather". When I was in grade school and junior high and people made fun of me SO bad that I had to switch schools....I killed em with kindness. When my mother in law was SO horrible to me that I cried all the time, I killed her with kindness. And when my ex husband does things that make my skin crawl and my temper reach boiling...I kill him with kindness. See, when you fight back or say something snappy back to someone that has offended you or treated you with doesnt hurt them. It only hurts you. When you can give them grace, and smile and say something helps you. It might even help them.

Romans 12:20

The Message (MSG)
20-21 Our Scriptures tell us that if you see your enemy hungry, go buy that person lunch, or if he’s thirsty, get him a drink. Your generosity will surprise him with goodness. Don’t let evil get the best of you; get the best of evil by doing good.

A few weeks ago I was traveling out of town with a group of women for a conference...the first night of the conference we got done really late and we were starving so we went to a fast food restaruant and went through the drive thru. The kid that was so snappy when we were ordering our food...and since we had a large order, by the time we got to the window he was just plain rude. When he was shoving us our food out the window I said with a sweet smile "You look like you've had a rough night...I bet you are ready to be off huh?" he stopped and looked at me kinda shocked and said "Yes...Im tired and just wanna go home" He kinda started to smile... I asked him if they could accept tips and he said yes so I handed him a $10...and told him to have a wonderful night. He BEAMED with pride and said..."Oh I too!!! thank you SO much!". Now lets replay that.....If I would have been rude back to him, or said something about his rudeness to his manager or something along those lines....things wouldnt have ended that way. The poor kid ( I say kid because he looked like he was about 16) looked exhausted and he just wanted to go home. He probly shoudnt have been so rude. I get it. But he deserved a smile and a little grace just like anyone does.

We've all had those days where we want to punch everyone that talks to us in the face just go home and cry. And we've all had days where we bite peoples heads off for even LOOKING at us  are probably not very nice to people in our paths. Think about those days, and how they would be different if someone showed you an extra measure of kindness...I bet they would be different.

And the people that you have to deal with all the time, like the ex's or the inlaws...or even the snotty moms in the PTA....and it goes the same for them. When they bite you....dont bite back. Kill em. Smile, say something sweet.....compliment them. And MEAN it. Then watch what happens. The change might not happen right then and there....but over time there will be a change. It might not come from might be YOU that changes. But I promise change will happen.

Proverbs 21:23

The Message (MSG)
23 Watch your words and hold your tongue;
you’ll save yourself a lot of grief.

Proverbs 12:18

The Message (MSG)
18 Rash language cuts and maims,
but there is healing in the words of the wise.

Proverbs 15:1

The Message (MSG)
15 A gentle response defuses anger,
but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.

The tongue is a nasty thing when we want it to be...the tongue and make wounds deep enough to make someone take their own life. Thats pretty crazy stuff. I know that I can be snappy with people...I can be a flat out B-word when I choose to be. But whats the point? To hurt people? To let them know how much they have irritated me, annoyed me, slowed me down or hurt me? There is no point. And I have to stop. I need to started killing people with kindness. So, Imma start killin em'....maybe you should too.


  1. LOVE this, your words sing the absolute TRUTH!!! I think it's so very easy to snap back, honk your horn LOUDER, walk in line in front of someone a little FASTER or just be plain RUDE but really we are just hurting ourselves. Cause then WE are being the nasty ones, gah! Thank you for reminding me to kill 'em...with kindness! :)

  2. That is exactly what you do! Your mom and dad are very smart! It feels better knowing you tried your best. Great post! Have a good week.

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  5. I always hated when my parents said "kill them with kindness" :) It was always the right thing but always the hardest thing to do

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